How to be a good storyteller
In any relationship, the most important role is played by the way people interact with each other. There are two main ways of direct communication – verbal and non-verbal communication. Both of them are interconnected and interdependent: verbal expressions are always helped by the body language. If you have a good vocabulary and a style of presentation of thoughts, you can become a successful person in any sphere of life. Here are some tips to help you succeed with good communication.
Proper presentation of yourself is a very important aspect for a good interlocutor
Are you trying to convince other people of something? Your words will become more effective if they are accompanied by a sweet smile. If it seems difficult for you, imagine that you are playing a part in a movie or theater. You must act as a professional actor / actress, so that your facial expressions and your gestures correspond to the situation. People with a stone, indifferent face are uninteresting to others and therefore doomed to failure.
Use well-chosen words
Do not forget, however, that the correctly constructed phrase should sound in the right place and the right time, only a timely response has value. And this is possible only if you instantly, almost automatically, read the situation, not likening to the autopilot or robot. To easily read the situation, you must be a good observer / listener, and make an effort to react quickly and correctly.
Make brief pauses where it seems natural
This means that you must give some time to your interlocutor so that he can “digest” what you said. Let him ask questions, express his objections and comments. Here again you will need the ability to observe. If you feel that your interlocutor is not interested in conversation, try to smoothly change the subject.
Try not to engage in excessive confrontation with your interlocutor, even if you feel that he is mistaken
If you do this, your words may lose their value, triggering negative feelings from the opposite side. Be polite to others.
Take into account the subject of the conversation and the environment in order to choose the best type of physical contact
If you are discussing commercial deals in the office or other official place, then confidence in your voice and smile will be enough to support your words. A firm handshake should be benevolent and expressive when greeting and saying goodbye. But if you are conducting a sincere conversation while walking in the garden, you can even join hands, if, of course, it is appropriate for the persons participating in the conversation.
To be a good and pleasant companion, avoid excessive explanations of every little thing, unless you are asked to do so
Otherwise, your conversation can become boring or even offensive to the second participant. In addition, with constant “lyrical” digressions, the attention of the listener is lost, the value and importance of the issue that you are discussing are lost.
Listen to your partner by gaining patience
Listening is another important quality of a good interlocutor. If you are not ready to listen to it, then imagine listening to the radio announcer who should tell you how to win a prize, or to report some important information for you. Listening to your partner, you must actively react to what you hear, using the body language (usually smiling or nodding in agreement) or short “yes”, “I agree”, “you are right” and so on. This will make him understand that you are fully interested in listening, speaking and discussing. It is possible that at the end of the conversation your partner will reward you for attention.
Watch the tone
Your tone should always correspond to the meaning of what has been said. Do not speak aggressive phrase in a polite tone and vice versa. This may seem like a display of sarcasm or lack of logic. If you violate this rule, your chances of a good result in dealing with your partner will be greatly reduced.
Watch the volume of your voice
You should not speak so loudly that random passers-by can overhear you, but it is not too quiet for you to hear easily from your interlocutor. Otherwise your partner will feel insult or inconvenience.
If you feel that your interlocutor does not want to agree with you, you should not continue this topic
But suddenly, it’s very unexpected to start talking about something completely different – also a bad idea. Change the subject of conversation should be gradually, imperceptibly, so as not to disturb the spirit of relationships and continue to communicate successfully.